2007年5月9日 星期三

9 MAY 2007

Wednesday, May 09, 2007

又貼歌


沉默是金
夜風凜凜獨
回望舊事前塵
是以往的我 
充滿怒憤
誣告與指責
積壓著滿肚氣不忿
對謠言反應甚為著緊
受了教訓得了書經的指引
現已看得透 不再自困
但覺有分數不再像以往那般笨
抹淚痕 輕快笑著行
冥冥中 都早注定你富或貧
是錯永不對 真永是真
任你怎說 安守我本份
始終相信沉默是金
是非有公理慎言莫冒犯別人
遇上冷風雨 休太認真
自信滿心裡休理會諷刺與質問
笑罵由人 灑脫地做人
少年人 灑脫地做人
繼續行 灑脫地做人
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Tuesday, May 08, 2007

About Kobe
Posted by Gilbert Arenas on December 18 2006, 1:05 p.m. ET


Kobe tried to stick me.
Noah Graham/NBAE/Getty Images
I did it last year. I did it this year. Two weeks in a row. Me and Kobe Bryant was the only players to do it last year.
You know, at the end of the day, all the shots that I take I practice. It not like I just go into the game just throwing up shots. I work hard. I in the gym every day. I practice my shots. Before every game I shoot 100 threes. You know, I get to the gym, I shoot 100 threes so I feel comfortable taking the shots I take.
Out of that whole game I probably took two bad shots. And, for me not to have a conscience? Youe right. When youe an assassin, you don have a conscience. At the end of the day I thought he didn have a conscience, but I guess he does.
For the best player in the league to downplay what I did ?I guess, I don know. I give him all the respect in the world. He is the No. 1 player in the league, by far. It like that. You don need to try to shadow box my 60. It was one of them nights when I was clicking and everything was going in so, I ended up having 60. That all there is to it.
How can you go back at a guy who scores 45 every night? You can. There no point of it. There no point.
We know who he is.
I know who he is.
I a big fan, I one of his No. 1 fans, so there no point in even throwing shots at him.
With a player like him, he just wants that challenge. I know he is going to be ready for Game 2 in Washington. With a player like him, it was his home crowd, they lost. He just that fierce competitor. He doesn want to get out-showed. He the one who everybody afraid of. And he right.



Monday, May 07, 2007

抑鬱焦慮 家庭「教」出來
(明報) 04月 10日 星期二 05:10AM
【明報專訊】抑鬱、焦慮或攻擊行為等心理傾向,一直是備受關注的議題。它們的形成,與當事人在成長過程中,各受一套以偏概全的信念支配有關﹕抑鬱傾向的人認為自己經常遇上失敗,焦慮傾向的常
廣 告

常感到厄運快要降臨,有攻擊傾向的則因經常遭人欺負而認定世界沒有公理。這些信念的形成,也與父母的管教方式有關。

這天,Amy、Beth與Charles分別找Mandy一起午膳,但Mandy實在很忙,既要趕計劃書,又要開lunch meeting,只好逐一推卻。Amy、Beth與Charles聽後,反應並不同﹕

Amy﹕一定是我不好,她才不跟我吃飯?

Beth﹕她不跟我吃飯,一定是要跟我絕交了。

Charles﹕不跟我吃飯是她不對,應該捱我打。

以上例子可能有點誇張,但它概括說明了分別具抑鬱、焦慮及攻擊傾向的人的想法﹕

抑鬱傾向的Amy,常常歸咎自己做錯。

焦慮傾向的Beth,容易「小事化大」。

有攻擊傾向的Charles,認為唯有「靠惡」才能生存。

戴「有色眼鏡」 任何事也變色

Mandy 拒絕三人的午膳邀約,只是一件普通不過的事,但三人卻各有解讀。香港中文大學 心理學系教授梁永亮指出,事實上,心理受困擾並非來自事情本身,而是當事人怎樣看這件事?戴「有色眼鏡」看事情的話,眼前什麼事都會變色。而「眼鏡」之 所以「有色」,源於當事人在成長過程中特別留意與自己信念相符的經驗。當相符的經驗累積得愈多,「眼鏡」的顏色也愈深。

抑鬱傾向的人在成 長過程中經常「感到」失敗,他們其實很渴望被全人類接受,一旦被拒絕,便再度感到自己失敗?但他們沒有想到,被全人類接受其實不可能。焦慮傾向的人常常感 到厄運快要降臨,就算是午膳邀約被拒絕的小事,他們也會視作「更壞的事即將發生」的證據。至於有攻擊傾向的人,則在成長過程中經常遭人欺負,認定世界沒有 公理,被拒絕的話,便認定是受不公平對待,因而想武力還擊。

那麼,人們怎會出現這三種如此看事情的方向?中大以中學生為對象的研究發現,這與各人早年所接受的父母管教方式有關﹕

抑鬱傾向﹕經常被父母忽略或厭棄,感到沒有人愛惜自己;

焦慮傾向﹕父母對他們的要求過高,子女為了符合父母期望,很想盡力達到父母要求卻未必做到;

攻擊傾向﹕父母無甚管教,不懂得控制自己的行為,覺得做好人只會遭人欺負。

不過,梁永亮也稱﹕「人是社交動物,除了求生存,也求被愛。」假如成長過程中遇上良師益友的關懷,父母的管教負面影響有望淡化。

此外,臨心理學家經常應用的認知行為療法,讓戴「有色眼鏡」的當事人多考慮其他可能性,並以行動驗證,以期能撇除以偏概全的想法,淡化「有色眼鏡」的影響。

文﹕姜素婷



Sunday, May 06, 2007

i understand
http://boss.streamos.com/wmedia/nba/nbacom/press_conf/mcgrady_pc_070505.asx







Saturday, May 05, 2007

有型的hip hop 人
可否把有型的高聲叫囂和有型的地板動作
留在本應寧靜的自修室和圖書館以外?






那種無方向性的反叛行為本是成長的必經階段
但你們好像有點超齡了





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